Up your sales, grow traffic to your website, and convert more visitors to customers!

Facebook and Google Ads Workshops

ENGAGEMENT IS DOWN ON SOCIAL MEDIA

Learn how you can up your conversions and boost your sales with these important LadyDrinks tutorials coming up in July.

JULY 18th GOOGLE ADS AND REMARKETING WEBINAR
July 18th 12-1pm Priscilla Soriano, who is a certified Google Ad words professional, will be leading a webinar, breaking down how to build an effective Google ad campaign for your business. For the first twenty minutes, we will talk about the benefits of google ads and present a case study of a successful ad campaign that converted customers. Then we will do a round robin, where all participants on the call will have a chance to ask their own questions and get one on one coaching on the subject.

RSVP TO THE GOOGLE ADS WEBINAR JULY 18TH

JULY 25TH FACEBOOK ADS WEBINAR
Social media engagement is down on Facebook. Posts are rarely getting seen and getting even less likes. The platform is at capacity now that Facebook had 2.38 billion monthly active users. So the platform has migrated to a ‘Pay to Play’ model.   July 25th 12-1pm Carly Deiter and Casey Brown, from Uppercasebrands, will lead  this tutorial on how to create hyper local and targeted ads for your business.  We will also review a case study of a business that had success with placing Facebook ads.

RSVP TO THE FACEBOOK ADS WEBINAR JULY 25TH

July 24th, LadyDrinks rings in 8 years of events with an important workshop on mindset building and self care at Sisley Paris

 

Why Mindset?

At a recent retreat, an entire morning was devoted to the importance of MINDSET. Rather than repeat the same action, and hope for different results, we were encouraged to take a few steps back and investigate our initial thoughts. Were we thinking that we could win? Or did we think that we would fail? Remember – thoughts become beliefs. Beliefs beget emotions. Emotions propel us to act in a way that yields desired results. Without the right mindset however, all of the rest is in vain. So how then do you maintain a success mindset? This is what we will workshop at this event!

Why Self-Care?

A common theme of our Sunday accountability groups is how much we neglect our self-care. This carries a significant cost. At the recent Bloomberg Breakaway Summit, Liz Hilton Segal – head of McKinsey North America – credited her dedication to self care for allowing her to successfully manage a team of thousands. Neglecting ourselves can have a ripple effect onto our family and employees. This event aims to kick start your personal rejuvenation! What better way to launch a new self care initiative than a facial with new friends, led by the experts at Sisley Paris?

Do you want to create a winning mindset and prioritize more self care?Be at the LadyDrinks workshop at Sisley Paris July 24th.

Learn to craft a winning mindset

BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE

Last week, I attended two summits with the nation’s top CEOs. Two consistent themes were the need to set a specific mindset and the importance of self-care.

 

 

In the last few weeks, I had the privilege of attending two important summits. One was the Bloomberg Breakaway CEO Summit, featuring some of the top business leaders in the world commenting on work culture and how to improve it. The second was the Ellevate Mobilize Summit. We had partnered on this important event to elevate dialogue on installing more diverse women in positions of power in the workplace. Mindset and Self-Care are themes that came up again and again at both events.

Why Mindset?

At a recent business retreat I attended, an entire morning was devoted to the importance of MINDSET. Rather than repeat the same action, and hope for different results, we were encouraged to take a few steps back and investigate our initial thoughts. Were we thinking that we could win? Or did we think that we would fail? Remember – thoughts become beliefs. Beliefs beget emotions. Emotions propel us to act in a way that yields desired results. Without the right mindset however, all of the rest is in vain. So how then do you maintain a success mindset? This is what we will workshop at this event!

Why Self-Care?

A common theme of our Sunday accountability groups is how much we neglect our self-care. This carries a significant cost. At the recent Bloomberg Breakaway Summit, Liz Hilton Segal – head of McKinsey North America – credited her dedication to self care for allowing her to successfully manage a team of thousands. Neglecting ourselves can have a ripple effect onto our family and employees. This event aims to kick start your personal rejuvenation! What better way to launch a new self care initiative than a facial with new friends, led by the experts at Sisley Paris?

SISLEY PARIS
Visionary entrepreneurs Hubert and Isabelle d’Ornano launched the lifestyle beauty brand Sisley in 1976. Today, the brand incorporates plant-based products into its skin-care. Isabelle is a mother of five children and is the face of the brand. A Sisley Paris representative will be on hand to share about the family and the beauty line.

WHAT’S INCLUDED IN YOUR TICKET? Over $600 in VALUE!

  • A mindset workshop ($300 value)
  • Self care workshop: Skincare consults and a mini-facial experience OR a personalized makeup application ($100 value)
  • A botanical skincare and makeup Sisley Flower Box, CUSTOMIZED JUST FOR YOU on the 8 year anniversary of LadyDrinks, with a special offer to get the Sisley 60-minute facial for the month of July. ($100 value)
  • An opportunity to win a spot at the next LadyDrinks mentoring luncheon ($100 value)
  • An opportunity to connect and network with other successful and like-minded entrepreneurs (Priceless!)
  • Champagne and red wine
  • French light bites

RSVP TO ‘FUN, FACIALS, AND FOCUS’ JULY 24TH

 

ATTEND THE NEXT LADYDRINKS MENTORING LUNCHEON

She grew up in one of few families of color outside of Boston. In this podcast, she tells a painful story of being the target of racial slurs and being bullied in elementary and middle school. Her hair set on fire in one of her favorite classes. She didn’t want to be seen. She wanted to be invisible.

Today, as a leader at a major Fortune 500 company, Mita Mallick makes it her mission to share her own voice and help other women find theirs. Three members get to attend this luncheon and ask their own questions on how to find their own voice.

Listen to this powerful interview on the LadyDrinks podcast, educating and supporting South Asian women professionals.

IN THIS NEXT LADYDRINKS MENTORING LUNCHEON, YOU WILL LEARN TO

  • Speak up ! And do it gracefully
  • Put language and tools in your tool belt to deploy in real time
  • Be confident

 

ATTEND THE NEXT LADYDRINKS MENTORING LUNCHEON

 

“Listen!” was the most important lesson we learned at the annual LadyDrinks extreme sports challenge Saturday

LISTEN. LET GO.

LADYDRINKS GOES TO TRAPEZE SCHOOL

Seven women and one lucky guy participated in the annual LadyDrinks extreme sports challenge this weekend, designed to push participants outside their comfort zone, and into a state called  ‘optimal anxiety’

The instructor said ‘listen to me.’

Each year as businesswomen we do one ‘outside your comfort zone’ sports challenge to see what else might be possible for us. Last year, we went skydiving with LD member and pro skydiver Melanie Curtis. This year’s pick was New York Trapeze school on the West Side Highway of Manhattan.

EXHAUSTED
First of all, I was running on sheer adrenaline and fumes when I woke up Saturday morning. I spent under 12 hours in Chicago Thursday, hosting LadyDrinks. Album here. Only to catch the 6am United flight Friday to attend a partnered all day summit with the Ellevate Network.

The television person in me had back timed from the time I expected to be on-site at New York Trapeze School. 6am. Get up. Brush teeth. 6:15am Get dressed in my snazzy Carbon 38 outfit. Sneakers. Socks. Sunblock. Hat for sun protection. Pack backpack. 6:30am Arrive at local Dunkin Donuts to place order for a box of coffee, almond milk, regular milk, donuts, muffins, bagels and two kinds of cream cheese. 7am call Uber to get to Trapeze school. 7:20 arrive at front door of New York Trapeze School and send directions to attendees on Whatsapp group on how to find the rooftop.

The weather was in my favor Saturday. The sun warm on my bare shoulders after three days of incessant rain. My friend Shruti was the first to arrive. I like that she’s always on time. Then the others. Soon all 11 were in place for class.

UNENTHUSED
The lead instructor was a strong African American man, completely unenthused by my sharing about LadyDrinks and why we were engaging in this activity today. He was frankly bored by it all. He toggled quickly and walked us through important ways we should hold our bodies when hanging from the trapeze bar. “Like a banana.”  He walked us through critical commands. “What do you do when I say ‘Ready!'” Bend my knees on the edge of the platform. “What do you do when I say ‘Hep!”

JUMP.

We all put our names on the white board for the order in which we would go. “Wait! Who is the leader of this group?” All of a sudden he’s interested. “Joya!” everyone said in chorus. I’ll own that. I orchestrated this whole cockamamie activity. I marched up to the ladder and tethered in. I was confident the first 10 rungs. The ladder was jerry rigged to a second ladder in order to achieve the heights needed to touch the platform. As I gained altitude, the fear kicked in. I was high up. What if my legs got tangled in the tether and I misstepped on this skinny and unforgiving ladder? How hard would the fall be? “One rung at a time Joya” I breathed through the fear. “One rung at a time. That’s all you need to worry about.”

Once I reached the platform, I had to grip onto a third ladder and hoist myself up. I was shaking. From this height, all of lower Manhattan was to my left. The Hudson and all of New Jersey was to my right.

LISTEN TO ME
The instructor only had one ask. “Listen to me.” I was so terrified, the fear earmuff-ed his commands. I was deaf to anything he was saying. Suddenly, the fear turned to rage. I hate this about myself. I was raised by an immigrant mother whose whole life was a big envelope of fear. She led with it. And she infused it into everything she did, including raising me. As an adult, I was determined to kick fear in the face.  ^&* it. I’m doing this. “I’m pushing through this fear,” I muttered to myself.

UPSIDE DOWN HANG
“READY!” I bent my knees, and went out on the trapeze bar and hung like a monkey.  “HEP!” I landed in the net.  Ultimately, Saturday, I didn’t do the upside down hang nor the catch. I was a little envious because everyone else flew through the air like a Flying Wallenda and did all the stunts. Video here Shruti remarked, “You’re overthinking it.” Afterwards, we sat in a circle and shared what came up for us doing this extreme activity. There were some really honest shares and some tears.

TAKEAWAY
The most important takeaway, we all concluded, was how important ‘listening’ is. That can be in the context of a business meeting, speaking to a potential client, or engaging at a networking event. How many times have we heard how important it is to be an active listener? How many times have we ignored it.? I know, I’m chronically preparing my next question as I’m listening to someone speak. The other important takeaway is to “LET GO!” There is so much wonderful on the other side of fear.

VIEW TRAPEZE PHOTO ALBUM HERE

Tomorrow, June 26th at 6:30pm I’m in conversation with LadyDrinks Member and author Divya Sood at the bookstore Shakespeare & Co, as she launches her third book “Find Someone to Love.” She is our member spotlight for the week. Read more about her here

BECOME A MEMBER TODAY

Wanna know what the top CEO’s in the country are reading? I share the list from the Bloomberg Breakaway CEO Summit.

THINK BIG

THE BLOOMBERG BREAKAWAY CEO SUMMIT

I just came off an excellent two day conference hosted by Bloomberg for CEO’s. Sharing my takeaways from some of the nation’s top leaders of business on what leadership and innovation mean to them.

Always be learning. Know what you ‘don’t know’

You know how the saying goes: You are the Average of the 5 People You Spend the Most Time With … I’m enrolled in a ten month program for LadyDrinks and part of my incentive for joining was to be surrounded by people who are thinking BIG about their businesses. You can imagine my excitement when I was invited, as a member of Million Dollar Woman, to a summit filled with CEO’s and other titans of business.
LISA WARDELL, President and CEO of Adtalem Global Education
She shared how she has successfully gotten more women in the C-Suite in her company: Select women and teach them how to handle a profit and loss statement.  Ensure there are support systems for success as well as mentors. She found that this responsibility put squarely on women’s shoulders has been a game changer.

DIANE HOSKINS, CO-CEO, Gensler
She built a portal where everyone in her architectural firm can share ideas. She was most curious about how one idea ignites another. “Be intentional and supportive about creativity as you are about diversity.”

CHRISTINE HUNSICKER, CEO, Total Brain
The same goes for innovation. Christine says if you want people to innovate, you have to give employees space to do it. Walter Dolhare of Wells Fargo followed with “How can you create a safe space with your employees to bring up something controversial. How you react as a leader is incredibly important.”

CRAIG MULLANEY, Partner, Brunswick
After pay and benefits, employees indicated in a survey that social media is the next most influential factor in their own retention at a company. Sixty percent looked at the digital profile of a CEO before even joining. 2 to 1 prefer to work for a CEO that uses digital and social media to provide transparency to his or her employees. Doug McMillan, CEO of Walmart, is a good example of someone who has great engagement on social media.

GENERAL STANLEY MCCHRYSTAL, Former Commander US and International Security Forces Afghanistan and former commander of US Joint Special Operations Command
He recommends not making one’s subordinates one’s friends when in a leadership position. “Have the discipline not to be vulnerable with them.” He was in a situation while serving under the Obama Administration where he had to step down. “When you make a mistake, get out and own it.”  Same goes for your team.

LIZ HILTON SEHGAL, Managing Partner for McKinsey in North America
She, as a leader, is religious about getting 8 hours of sleep. Self care, mindfulness were themes that came up again and again in terms of employee management. She also reminded CEOs to be perpetual learners. “You don’t know what you don’t know,” she counselled. “Always be learning. Know your limitations.”

WANT TO BE IN A ROOM FULL OF SMART WOMEN THIS WEEK? YOU STILL CAN!

LadyDrinks partners with ELLEVATE for the Mobilize Women Summit, Friday, June 21st, 2019 in New York. All Day Event

Mobilize Women is a movement based on Ellevate Network’s purpose of achieving equality for all, by giving diverse voices, and particularly those of women, a seat at the table where decisions are made. Read more.

This year’s Summit will feature speakers Sallie Krawcheck, Valerie Jarrett, Tony Prophet, Halima Aden, Andrea Jung and more. Register below using code ‘ladydrinks’ for 15% off tickets to the Summit. If you can’t make it on June 21, check out the Livestream of the event!

 

Today’s member spotlight is on Zarna Garg, aka Funny Brown Mom. She is capitalizing on her being a mom of three, of South Asian descent—and FUNNY— to light up stages around New York City. This Thursday she will be at Dangerfields in New York City at 8pm. Read more

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Reading list of books CEO’s at the Summit Read
Scaling up, By Verne Harnish
Relationship Marketing, by Regis McKenna
Never Eat Alone, Keith Ferrazzi
Am I Being Too Subtle? by Sam Zell

Last week was a busy week of learning at LadyDrinks. All the takeaways from the ways women hold themselves back with leadership and authority

What’s a prevention based question?

AND WHY ARE WOMEN ONLY ANSWERING THEM?

In our webinar with Angela Lee, founder of 37 Angels, we learned that women answer ‘prevention based questions.’  Men are asked ‘promotion-based questions.”  What’s the difference? Read on.

TAKEAWAYS FOR YOUR USE

Last week was the first time I hosted a LadyDrinks event remotely via zoom call. It’s a new model I’m trying out in order to sustain momentum after I have left a city. We hosted the inaugural LadyDrinks San Diego event April 26th while I was on the ground there. June 4th marked the follow-up event and it was a discussion around a book I had read for my female leadership Book Club.

HOW WOMEN RISE

Sally Helgensen’s book lists the 12 ways women hold themselves back from leadership and authority in the workplace. Hers was a response to Marshall Goldsmith’s 2007 What got you here won’t get you there, listing all the ways executives hold themselves back. Both wrote How Women Rise together, realizing that women faced different challenges. One of my favorite takeaways from the book: Minimizing. Women will physically make themselves smaller in order to take up less space. She cites an example of latecomers to a conference. Women immediately shifted their bags and scrunched their legs together to make room for the additional folks. The men remained as is. Women tend to start sentences with “I just wanted to” (‘just’ minimizes the ask) or apologizing constantly. “I’m sorry, but can I…..” A little bit of awareness makes this habit easy to correct.

BOUNDARIES, NOT BALANCE

Wednesday, June 5th, LadyDrinks partnered with the women’s co work space The Co-Co in Summit, New Jersey, to host an event fusing both communities.

It was a fireside chat with Liz Tenety, former editor at the Washington Post, and today the co founder of Motherly, an online destination for the modern day mother, featuring content that is woman-focused and not necessarily baby-focused. Liz recently published a collection of stories by mothers called “This is Motherhood.” Our conversation focused on highlights from the book that I picked out to discuss.  We finished with an elegant quote from one of the essays that puts the conversation about ‘having it all’ on its head: “Motherhood is about boundaries. Not balance.”  Takeaways from the fireside chat with Liz Tenety here  Photo album from the event here 
RAISING ANGEL FUNDING

Thursday, June 6th, Angela Lee, founder of 37 Angels, shared the ABC’s of raising angel funding. She presented a slide deck with statistics and a treasure trove of resources women founders can leverage. She also shared where women are tripping themselves up when raising capital. One takeaway: women are often asked “prevention based questions” when pitching. “How long will it take for you to break even?  This versus men who are asked “promotion based questions.” “How do you plan to monetize this?”

Read below for the complete takeaways from the webinar. Become a LadyDrinks member to gain access to Angela Lee’s deck.

TAKEAWAYS FROM THE ANGEL FUNDING WEBINAR

Today’s member spotlight is on Shreya Mehta, Executive Member and Board Trustee of the Share and Care Foundation. She’s most proud of the changes she’s manifesting in other women’s lives with her leadership role. Read more

 

LadyDrinks partners with ELLEVATE for the Mobilize Women Summit, Friday, June 21st, 2019 in New York, NY  All Day Event

Mobilize Women is a movement based on Ellevate Network’s purpose of achieving equality for all, by giving diverse voices, and particularly those of women, a seat at the table where decisions are made. The Summit will cover topics such as Intersectional Identities, Changing the Culture of Business, Innovating the Future, Starting a Revolution, and more.

This year’s Summit will feature speakers Sallie Krawcheck, Valerie Jarrett, Tony Prophet, Halima Aden, Andrea Jung and more. Register here using code ‘ladydrinks’ for 15% off tickets to the Summit. If you can’t make it on June 21, check out the Livestream of the event!

BECOME A MEMBER TODAY

Sharing some of what I learned at the women’s business retreat I was at this weekend, plus book recommendations

Mindset is everything

RECAP OF MY WOMEN’S BUSINESS RETREAT THIS WEEKEND

I’ve entered into a 10 month business program to bring LadyDrinks to the next level and this weekend was a retreat with the founder and the 6 women enrolled. I was surprised by what we spent one morning on.

 

RECAP OF MY WOMEN’S BUSINESS RETREAT

I swear, I haven’t worn a fleck of makeup since Sunday. I’m drained, but I’m invigorated.

When I left my full time job last November to run LadyDrinks full time, I knew I needed help. How to run a successful business wasn’t going to divine itself one day. A member told me over dinner one night about a business program she was enrolled in and designed to take each woman in the cohort to a certain revenue level. I thought to myself, “I want to be enrolled in something like that.” Well, I did. This weekend, we spent the weekend knee-deep in each of our businesses’ financials. My biggest takeaway was around…

MINDSET

I’ve listened to “The Secret” a million times, both in book and movie form. Intellectually, I got the philosophy that “thoughts become things.” But the founder of my business program spent an entire morning devoted to mindset. Business success is “80% mindset. 20% skillset,” she counseled. We can make widgets till the cows come home, but if we don’t think, believe, emote that our widget business will cross the six figure mark, it won’t. I was also surprised to learn we generate 70,000 thoughts in a day, and most are negative.

ESTABLISH A MORNING RITUAL

Rituals can help with mindset. Some of the most successful people in the world, including Tony Robbins, have morning rituals. I established mine. I already work out first thing in the morning to change my physical state. It’s my first ‘win’ of the day and sets the tone for the day. I email a list of 10 things I’m grateful for to three LadyDrinks members daily.  And finally, saying aloud a daily affirmation or mantra around success.

CARRY A  BRAG BOOK

One of my members said to me this morning, “As South Asian women, we don’t credit ourselves enough.” True. This is why she suggested carrying a brag book. In other words, dedicate one notebook just to wins. It’s not enough to carry our ‘wins’ around in our heads. Efficiency expert Ari Meiselrecommends everyone keep an ‘external brain’ where our wins are documented. We can refer to them when times get tough.

BOOK READING LIST

Mentors can be in person. Tomorrow, we host a webinar with Angela Lee of 37 Angels on how to raise angel funding for our businesses. Mentors can also be found in books, especially when someone successful writes a memoir like Phil Knight, founder of Nike. Here are a list of suggested books from the retreat:

Leveraging the Universe by Mike Dooley
Scaling Up How a Few Companies Make It…and Why the Rest Don’t by Verne Harnish
Shoe Dog by Phil Knight (Founder of Nike)

JOIN US TOMORROW FOR THE LADYDRINKS WEBINAR

Today’s member spotlight is on Priya Sajja, Vice President, Global Strategy, Wealth Solutions at Bank of New York Mellon. She’s most proud of sponsoring the LadyDrinks screening of the film about Ruth Bader Ginsburg last year. Learn why.  

LadyDrinks partners with ELLEVATE for the Mobilize Women Summit, Friday, June 21st, 2019 in New York, NY  All Day Event

Mobilize Women is a movement based on Ellevate Network’s purpose of achieving equality for all, by giving diverse voices, and particularly those of women, a seat at the table where decisions are made. The Summit will cover topics such as Intersectional Identities, Changing the Culture of Business, Innovating the Future, Starting a Revolution, and more.

This year’s Summit will feature speakers Sallie Krawcheck, Valerie Jarrett, Tony Prophet, Halima Aden, Andrea Jung and more. Register here using code ‘ladydrinks’ for 15% off tickets to the Summit. If you can’t make it on June 21, check out the Livestream of the event!

BECOME A MEMBER TODAY

As LadyDrinks turns 8 years old, we host a private tour of Liberty Hall and a madeira tasting on the back patio

LadyDrinks Turns 8

August 3rd Celebration

Guess what? LadyDrinks is turning 8 years old! We celebrate at Liberty Hall, home of the first NJ Governor with a wine tasting on the patio.

WHAT IS MADEIRA?

Saturday, August 3rd, LadyDrinks Women’s Networking celebrates 8 years of hosting events supporting South Asian professional women. In partnership with the NY Adventure Club, we host a private tour of Liberty Hall, Home of New Jersey’s first governor followed by a madeira tasting on the patio. Gentlemen and spouses are welcome!

WHAT IS MADEIRA

A fortified wine made on the Portuguese islands, off the coast of Africa. Madeira is produced in a variety of styles ranging from dry wines which can be consumed as an aperitif to sweet wines usually consumed with dessert.

WHY MADEIRA?

Madeira was also a regular port of call for ships travelling to the East Indies. The Dutch East India Company became a regular customer, picking up large (112 gal/423 l) casks of wine known as “pipes” for their voyages to India.

During a recent restoration of Liberty Hall, belonging to William Livingston, New Jersey’s first elected governor, one of the country’s largest and rarest collections of 18th-century Madeira wine was discovered tucked away in the wine cellar. We will toast to the 8 year anniversary of LadyDrinks with a Madeira tasting just as his fellow founding fathers did after signing the Declaration of Independence.

WHAT DOES YOUR TICKET INCLUDE

• An overview of the historic property throughout the past three centuries

• A private exploration of the mansion dating back to 1772 with access inside historic bedrooms, parlors, and the wine cellar

• A closer look at the museum’s extensive collections of antiques including furniture, ceramics, textiles, toys, and tools

• Stories of the ancestors of the Livingston and Kean families, which have included governors, U.S. Congressmen and senators, entrepreneurs, and pioneering women

A a wine tasting of four different types of Madeira on the back patio!

See you there!

JOIN US FOR THE LADYDRINKS 8 YEAR ANNIVERSARY

June 5th LADYDRINKS AND THE CO-CO PRESENT A FIRESIDE CHAT WITH LIZ TENETY, MOTHERLY

June 6th RAISING CAPITAL FOR THE FIRST TIME WITH ANGELA LEE, FOUNDER, 37 ANGELS

June 22nd LADYDRINKS GOES TO TRAPEZE SCHOOL

June 27th LADYDRINKS MENTORING LUNCH WITH DHANUSHA SIVAJEE, CMO, XO GROUP

Today’s member spotlight is on Neha Desai Shah, co founder and president of digital procurement company GEP.  Learn what she’s passionate about and her advice for women entrepreneurs. Her story here

LadyDrinks forges a new partnership with UPS. Become a ladydrinks member today to learn what they are.

BECOME A MEMBER TODAY

Want a New Story with Money? Join Us June 6th to Share, Grow, and Execute the Story You Want.

Next Members-only Cocktail

June 6th Event

What is the story you tell yourself about money? Does it make you feel strong or vulnerable? June 6th, rather rarely and unusually, LadyDrinks is about to have an honest conversation about it.


WHAT IS YOUR MONEY STORY?

Do you remember your first memory of money? Mine was a red toy gum ball machine that I had as a kid. It dispensed large brightly colored gum balls in turquoise, fuchsia and white. I would dispense them to the two little girls who lived on either side of my house. 6pm was the magical hour when we would play together. 6pm, because my Indian mother and her vanity would be bellowing from the second floor that ‘I would get dark’ if I ventured out a minute sooner. In order to unlock the “wonderful,” I had to find coins to insert in the coin slot, turn the crank, and bloop the gum ball would shoot out. I had just returned from a 3 month stint in India, so I lost all my English. But I could still dispense gum balls with aplomb.

MONEY CIRCLES

Thursday June 6th marks the next Members Only cocktails for LadyDrinks.

Our featured guest is Sunaina Mehra of Francis Financial, which is a female led financial advisory. Back in the winter, 8 of us participated in something she calls a “money circle.”

Eight women sat in a circle, and answered a series of questions. What was your first memory of money? What is your money story? How does it fortify you or make your feel vulnerable. The dynamics of the circle would change. Sometimes, we  just answered to a woman sitting to our left. Sometimes, we journaled and wrote for 2 minutes. Sometimes we articulated our answers to the group. The most powerful thing was that we, as women, were engaging in conversations about money in a way we never had before. It was a safe space too, where there was no judgement about what was said. And, most importantly, it was empowering.

WHEN DID YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO MONEY CHANGE?

I tell this story often. My money story changed when I went to college. My parents had enrolled me in an expensive school, but failed to save for it. I certainly wasn’t going home, so I  started working three little jobs on campus to pay for books. I furiously wrote letters asking for scholarship help to pay my tuition. I had the CFO of Bucknell draft a loan agreement stating I would pay the overage upon graduating.  Until then, I was like a passenger in a cab when it came to my money story. That day, I took ownership and stewardship of my future–and my money.  Join us on June 6th for this members only cocktail, where conversation will take center stage. And we will share our own money stories.

JOIN US FOR THE NEXT MEMBERS ONLY COCKTAIL

LADYDRINKS PARTNERS WITH THE ELLEVATE NETWORK

I chose to partner with the Mobilize Women’s Summit because I want us as diverse women to get a seat at the table where decisions are made. The Summit will cover topics such as how to create a more inclusive culture in workplaces and how to have our voices heard in a corporate environment, and more.

This year’s Summit will feature speakers such as Sallie Krawcheck, Valerie Jarrett, Tony Prophet, Halima Aden, Andrea Jung and more. Register below using the code ‘ladydrinks’ for 15% off. If you can’t make it on June 21, check out the Livestream of the event!

JOIN LADYDRINKS FOR THE SUMMIT

June 5th LADYDRINKS AND THE CO-CO PRESENT A FIRESIDE CHAT WITH LIZ TENETY, MOTHERLY

June 6th RAISING CAPITAL FOR THE FIRST TIME WITH ANGELA LEE, FOUNDER, 37 ANGELS

June 22nd LADYDRINKS GOES TO TRAPEZE SCHOOL

June 27th LADYDRINKS MENTORING LUNCH WITH DHANUSHA SIVAJEE, CMO, XO GROUP

 

We are hosting events every week now. Last Wednesday, something really magical happened. In this photo is LadyDrinks member Sanketa Jain, third from the left. During the group share, learn what saved her life.

PHOTO ALBUM FROM EVENT

Have you ever been to the Ellis Island National Museum of Immigration? It’s fantastic. On the second floor are photographs capturing the wave of 12 million immigrants who entered America through the Island. There is a whole impressive wall of framed passports. Indians in turbans next to Irishmen and Russian women in gypsy garb. Black and white photos demonstrating the strong Chinese wave of immigration to San Francisco. All survived voyage by boat.

The Indian Heritage Center (www.indiaheritagecenter.org) is capturing a similar, but niche story: the Indian immigration experience. The gala Friday evening at Legacy Castle raised funds for the Museum of the Indian Journey. We were supporting LadyDrinks member Neetu Jain who walked in a fashion show, wearing Vaishali Shagundale, who escaped from her family at 18 and the demands to get married to realize her dream of becoming a fashion designer.

PHOTO ALBUM FROM EVENT

This newsletter is a manifesto for anyone who has ever been told ‘no’ and the we celebrate the power of the mind this Thursday

The power is all in you

Event Recap

Last Friday, I sauntered into the San Diego Convention Center, ready to give a talk. I was told there would be 1200 South Asian women hoteliers. Boy was I in for a surprise.

ASKING FOR WHAT YOU ARE WORTH

Many months ago, an A Patel reached out to me with an inMail on Linkedin. I had spoken at a local town hall for the Asian American Hotel Owners Association (AAHOA) several years ago. Would I consider giving the keynote at the women’s luncheon at their upcoming conference?  I had been working with recent LadyDrinks speaker and coach Jen Groover on cultivating an abundance mindset. I was pleased to see the work bearing fruit so quickly.  “Sure,” I said. We signed a contract for my speaking fee.
PERSISTENCE

Monday, I had flown back from Milwaukee. Wednesday, I was up at 2:30am to do the news. At 4:15pm, I boarded a train to Princeton to give a talk. At 8:30pm, I boarded a car service back to Manhattan.  At 5am Thursday, I boarded another car service to the airport.  As the Brits in my life would say, I arrived in sunny San Diego  ‘completely knackered.’  I’ve become the poster child for those who fly with ear plugs and eye masks in order to get some quality sleep. I went to the fish hut by my hotel for tacos. Despite the sun and water beckoning me, I stayed in bed the rest of Thursday.

PEOPLE IN SAN DIEGO ARE SO NICE

Friday, I awoke refreshed and ready for the day. I went to a 6am yoga class. The Spanish instructor with fake dyed blonde hair, inquired inquisitively as to where I was from and had I been to Yoga Vida before. I eased into my day with a cappuccino and a yogurt. The barista even offered to make me a yogurt cup with bananas and blueberries.  In New York, the barista would have told me ‘&*(k off.’ People in San Diego are so nice! Must be the sun. I showered, got dressed, practiced my speech one more time in the mirror. Then I headed over to the venue. The Convention Center loomed across the street from my hotel window like a great big white albatross, reminding me that I was here for one big reason: To give a talk.

UH, WHAT?

I registered with my badge. The African American woman at check-in reminded me that she had written the description for my talk in the conference brochure. She so wanted to come and hear me speak, but alas, she had to man the desk. She directed me up the escalator to something called the “Sails Pavilion.” At the top, there were Indian men and women everywhere. This was the 30th year of the AAHOA Convention and a record 8,000 hoteliers were in attendance. I approached an attendant. “Where is the “Sails Pavilion?” She promptly got on her walkie talkie to inquire. She pointed to a hall across the road. Um. ok. That room is like…large. And empty.  I walked in. It was massive and white. Sun light filtered in through the carefully architected room. Sails covered half the ceiling. 1600 seats and tables were set up. “This is like a room where Tony Robbins gives talks. This room can’t be for me,” I thought. And then I heard the tech ops do a mic check. “Our keynote speaker today is Joya Dass.”

“H*ly **it!” My heart started beating fast. I had never given a talk in a room this big before.  H*ly **it!

TALK

I did what I do at every talk now. I immediately started to walk around to each table and introduce myself. “Hi My name is Joya. I’m the speaker today. What are your names? Where are you from? Dallas. North Carolina. Salt Lake City.” I hate speaking to a room full of strangers. Going around and pressing the flesh helps take the sting out of addressing such a large room.  I would have places where my eyes could land and make eye contact.  I couldn’t even get to the end because there were 1600! (not 1200 as originally advertised) South Asian women hoteliers in the room.  As I took the stage, the nerves started to ease away. You know how Beyonce has an alter ego called “Sasha Fierce” that takes over when she is on stage. Maybe I have an alter ego. Maybe it was the yoga with the Spanish instructor. I took the podium and I gave my talk. The first third was about my journey of extricating myself from a home of extreme domestic violence and leading with my dream of becoming a TV anchor. The second third was about the founding of LadyDrinks and the support systems I hope to create for other South Asian women. The last third was tactical advice. I had pre interviewed 6 women hoteliers in the audience over the phone to address their current pain points. I addressed tips for time management. Being heard. Dreams unrealized and how to realize them.  The photo above is from the stage after I finished. My biggest takeaway was the power of 1600! South Asian women in business, all in one room. Mic drop.

THE POWER IS WITHIN YOU

I asked for this. I wished for this. I manifested this. And for doing work I love with South Asian women in business, I am incredibly incredibly grateful. For anyone who has ever been told ‘no,’ know that the power is within you.

CELEBRATE THE POWER OF THE MIND THIS THURSDAY

I’m always thinking about ways to add value to LadyDrinks members. Today, we had our inaugural mentoring luncheon, where three members got an exclusive audience with a South Asian woman of influence. Our featured guest was Parinda Muley, who is VP of Innovation at Macy’s.

As consumers migrate online, the retail landscape has changed drastically. Big department stores like Macy’s have been forced to innovate in order to stay relevant. Parinda shared all of the ways Macy’s is leveraging ‘experiential’ shopping and in-store pop-ups with digital brands to entice shoppers to stay longer and buy more.

In attendance was Monika Anush, Founder of Lezazzu.Shop, Suchitra Kamath, Owner, Minuteman Press, Edison, and Shalu Khanna, spearheading the stateside arm of a big Indian apparel and home goods store. All three got to pick Parinda’s brain with their own business challenges over the lunch

A note that we stayed on-brand with the mission of LadyDrinks by hosting the lunch at a woman-owned restaurant Pondicheri. Thank you Ajna Jai for a wonderful experience.

PHOTOS AND TAKEAWAYS FROM LADYDRINKS TIENJ EVENT

PHOTOS FROM LADYDRINKS SAN DIEGO

Tomorrow, I am in conversation with LadyDrinks member Shruti Sharma Vazirani on steps to building a strong personal brand in Princeton

Steps to creating a powerful personal brand

Tomorrow I’m speaking in Princeton on the build of something that is inexplicably tied to your professional brand. Your personal brand. LadyDrinks members have been asking a question, and I answer it via video daily. Here are the top performing nuggets.

TOP NUGGETS

THE THREE NETWORKS YOU SHOULD BE BUILDING
Part of building your personal brand is creating a support network for success. The CEO of LIvely, Michelle Cordeiro Grant made a list of her fears when she first started her business, and then built a network around it. She made the people who could answer questions around her painpoints her best friends. Julia Pimsleur,  founder of the Million Dollar Masterclass I am currently enrolled in, says build three networks. Learn more here.

 

MAINTAINING AUTHENTICITY
Yesterday at book club, the ladies got into an intense discussion about how much authenticity is allowed in the workplace. One of the women found a colleague using her vulnerabilities against her.  Carla Harris, VP at Morgan Stanley Wealth Management, spoke at my women’s co work space recently. She recommends being your true self. However, its important to toggle to your audience. Learn more here.

WHAT IS A LOUD LIST?
Who says we don’t learn from young people? I was on a long term project with the Rockefeller Foundation several years ago. One of the young consultants on the project eventually left and I thought he did something really clever. He had aggregated the emails of everyone he had worked with (It wasn’t a long list since he was fresh out of college) but he created a newsletter of sorts, updating everyone that he was leaving his job. He was moving on to xyz job. This was how you could get in touch with him. It was his LOUD LIST to stay on people’s minds. I thought it was very clever. Learn more here.

THOSE DARN MILLENNIALS

Thursday, I was in Milwaukee, spending Easter with my boyfriend’s family.  His sister in law is in management and sales for a large beauty name in the city. She was expressing how tough it is to engage, employ and retain millennials as a legacy brand. We had a conversation about how this next generation JUST has to be approached differently. Learn more in this video
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DO  YOU KNOW THOUGHTFUL AND ENGAGED IN WOMEN IN SAN DIEGO?

I’m on a plane ONE more time this month.

This Friday, I am giving the keynote to 1200 Asian American women hoteliers at a luncheon in San Diego. I’ll be sharing my own personal story of becoming a journalist, my work with LadyDrinks, and some tactical advice that I share each day with my own women’s initiative.

This luncheon part of AAHOA’ s annual conference for the hundreds and thousands of Asian American hotel owners in the United States. Since I’m already there, I’m hosting LadyDrinks San Diego. Our featured speaker is Shelly Kapoor Collins, founder of the Shatter Fund, investing in women led ventures. Do you know any thoughtful and engaged women in San Diego I could invite? Please email me at joya@lady-drinks.com.