LADYDRINKS RINGS IN 8 YEARS
Our women’s movement is now eight years old and we are celebrating. Also, what does it mean to be assertive versus aggressive in the workplace?
A reminder that this Saturday, we celebrating!
In partnership with the NY Adventure Club, we host a private tour of Liberty Hall, Home of New Jersey’s first governor followed by a madeira tasting on the patio.
What is madeira?
A fortified wine made on the Portuguese islands, off the coast of Africa. Madeira is produced in a variety of styles ranging from dry wines which can be consumed as an aperitif to sweet wines usually consumed with dessert.
Madeira was also a regular port of call for ships travelling to the East Indies. The Dutch East India Company became a regular customer, picking up large (112 gal/423 l) casks of wine known as “pipes” for their voyages to India.
During a recent restoration of Liberty Hall, belonging to William Livingston, New Jersey’s first elected governor, one of the country’s largest and rarest collections of 18th-century Madeira wine was discovered tucked away in the wine cellar. We will toast to the 8 year anniversary of LadyDrinks with a Madeira tasting just as his fellow founding fathers did after signing the Declaration of Independence.
What’s included in your ticket:
- An overview of the historic property throughout the past three centuries
- A private exploration of the mansion dating back to 1772 with access inside historic bedrooms, parlors, and the wine cellar
- A closer look at the museum’s extensive collections of antiques including furniture, ceramics, textiles, toys, and tools
- Stories of the ancestors of the Livingston and Kean families, which have included governors, U.S. Congressmen and senators, entrepreneurs, and pioneering women
- Delicious catering by LadyDrinks member Sanketa Jain, Eat Krave Love
- And a wine tasting of four different types of Madeira on the back patio!
See you there!
Neetu Jain and Arvind Bhandari, Cookie Cutters Haircuts for Kids-Livingston
Sanketa Jain, Eat Krave Love
As an extension of my work with LadyDrinks, I do a fair amount of public speaking at corporates and host workshops on leadership. Monday, I spoke to the Asian American Pacific Islander employee resource group at a biopharma company on the topic of assertiveness.
Sometimes, as a culture, we weren’t taught to be assertive at home and that dings us when it comes to getting what we want (and deserve) in the workplace. I spoke from my experiences as a TV business anchor who regularly reported from the floor the New York Stock Exchange, which was largely male dominated. I also spoke from my real world experience in helming a female leadership group today. My colleague Dr. Matt Mullarkey presented from a more academic perspective with key studies on Asian cultures that shape communication styles.
Our biggest takeaway was that being assertive = win win for both sides. Being aggressive is a win for only my side.
- Believe in your own value when negotiating
- Actively listen when engaging in a conversation and know your audience. Know how your audience/boss/peer likes to be engaged. Do they like alot of conversation or do they want you to get to the point?
- Don’t be afraid to use the power of the pause. Pauses allow you to gather your thoughts. It’s also a powerful negotiating tactic.
- When asking for a raise or a project promotion, provide supporting statements and data. Write yourself bullet points if you get nervous
- Be clear about what you want from your career trajectory and don’t be afraid to share it. Never assume people automatically know.
- If you are already assertive and see others struggling to share items that are additive to a meeting, lift them up. “I know that Jill had a great point the other day on this topic. Jill why don’t you share?”