“We need to set an example, because I am awesome and we are awesome…We are powerful women, and when we say we have power, what we are really saying is that we deserve to have power. We deserve whatever good thing it is that we are getting. Demanding what you deserve can feel like a radical act.”
Shonda Rhimes speaking at the Elle Women In Hollywood event, where she announced that she’s the highest paid showrunner
Dear LadyDrinks members,
I went to a Moxxiemade “Cocktails and Conversations” event last week.
Since I host so many events, I love just attending events to sit and learn. Feed my brain.
This networking event was a collaboration between Moxxiemade and the jewelery maven Kendra Scott. Amy Young, Director of Retail Marketing, said something that struck me.
“It used to be that I derived worth from my job title or my latest promotion. But today I derive worth from thinking about how I can be the best version of me.” She went on to elaborate that when she is the best version of herself, she sets the tone and is a role model for her employees who report into her. They end up modeling her behavior. A good measuring stick she goes by is “Would my mother be proud.”
I thought about this for a long time after I left the store. I grew up in a household that was very focused on the names and titles and brands. It took me years to distill “Yes. I work at XYZ, but am I really happy?” How do I want to model myself in my current relationship? How do I want to model myself when I’m leading events? At events? I’m an emotional sort, with a quick temper. Grace under pressure is tough sometimes.
Amy was joined by three other panelists including Caroline Vazzana ,Author of Making It In Manhattan, Alyssa Coscarelli, Senior Fashion Editor of Refinery29, and Natalie Cantell, Fashion Director of Who What Wear.
Some other wonderful takeaways from the panel:
Monitor our self-talk. We are so hard on ourselves. I know I am. Others have said about me too. But especially now, as I ready to run Ladydrinks full time, I have to stand guard at the gates of my mind and be careful about what I let in —-and believe in myself, not berate myself, when I don’t get the business plan right the first time or the membership right the first time.
Develop your mantra. Lift yourself up. That way you can lift others up around you. I did this, but I had to Google “How do you develop a mantra?” Huffpo has a great article on this Step 1 Write down your top three accomplishments this year. Step 2. Write down your top three disappointments this year. Why did it happen? What will your new paradigm be? Step 3 Choose the single most positive, powerful and simple statement from #1 or #2 that will energize and help you focus on the SMARTER goals you’ve set for this year.
There comes a point where the burnout is real. I’ll say. As I ready to head to the Mayor of New York’s Diwali celebration tonight, I’m feeling like I can’t bear to put one more leg into another lengha or salwar outfit and smile. But I’m going as we represent @culturetreeny and @ladydrinks. So my task this Thanksgiving weekend is to rest up! Ok. Soulcycle twice and then –rest up.
NEW *** event JOYA’S BIRTHDAY, HOSTED BY SAFFRONART
But first—–My birthday!
Wednesday December 12th, I invite you to a members only reception at 136 East 73rdStreet. I’ve partnered with an art gallery Saffronart Studios, who has generously agreed to host. If you ask my friends, I’m not a jewellery maven. But Umrao Jewels is luring me into the land of the converted.
Anuj Shah from the House of Umrao will be unveiling their exclusive collection of Art Deco and modern Contemporary jewels on the occasion.
Please RSVP to email@example.com if you would like to attend and I’ll share the collection look book.
Come raise a toast. I’m turning 46!